How to Choose and Use a Psychotherapist: an open letter to anyone considering therapy

Psychotherapy is personal - it's as personal for the therapist as it is for the client Dear Reader, the word 'Patient' means 'someone who suffers' and few people come into psychotherapy without suffering - its the price of entry so as to speak - for the mystery of therapy is that this particular crisis becomes the key through which you discover the next stage of you life. You may come with some life-long problem that you want to change or something much more contemporary, like being made redundant...

Are you a Porn Addict?

When it comes to Sex Addiction - for me,  I am not sure, for me the Jury is still out.   Perhaps that comes from working in Mental Health in Soho,  an area that has rightly always been associated with sex.   However,  over that time we saw more and more cases of people addicted to Porn. When it comes to Porn addiction I throw my hands up on the air and admit I'm a believer, Porn addiction is real, its easy to get into, for the young is a real problems and its thriving. Let me break it...

The Tin Nose Shop: when plastic Surgery was just not enough

The Tin Nose Shop

Portrait of work in progress, from the papers of Anna Coleman Ladd. Archives of American Art Every war has its signature injury. In Afghanistan it the loss of limbs due to Improvised Explosive Devises. In the First World War it was a bullet in the face. It was a war characterised by new technology and al too often those who peeked over the lip of the trench found them selves caught by Machine Guns. Another technology in its infancy was Plastic Surgery,they could help some of the soldiers but...

A Real Birmingham Family

A Real Birmingham Family - Gillian Wearing

I am a big fan of photographer and Turner Prize winning artist, Gillian Wearing OBE. Her photographs are both familiar and deeply intimate. She asked ordinary people to write whatever they were feeling on a card and hold it up, then she photographed the result. You will recognise her work at once. http://www.tate.org.uk/art/artists/gillian-wearing-obe-264. Its a style that launched a thousand adverts. Now, I come from Birmingham. In my youth it was a tightly conventional city, but that's changed,...

Shell Shock & our own tribute to the Great War

As a Men's Therapy site it would be remiss not to talk about the trauma's of war. When we read about the number of deaths in the Great War its sometimes difficult to remember that most combattants did not die. Most did not suffer from Shell Shock But no one comes home unaffected.

The Long Boat Home – mental health and the ex-military

www.thelongboathome.co.uk - home page

An open letter to therapists - an invitation for you to offer reduced cost therapy to ex-services men and women (here's why its a good thing to do) I am sixty this year and I write that, not simply because the fact still amazes me, but to indicate that I grew up in a very different Britain - austerity Britain, with its bombsites, Scouts huts, Church Parades and bucket & spade holidays on beaches spiked with barbed-wire and tank traps. Clothes were rationed, women in utility wear, men...